What you do when you havea tyrant for a boss

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Permalink Reply by Beatrice on September 6, 2009 at 13:14

Better quiet and not saying anything to face this freak. He will be punished and he will get retribution one day. God bless you!

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Permalink Reply by Audrey Barber on September 6, 2009 at 13:38

Thanks Beatrice,

One could hardly not stay without saying anything. Very true what goes around comes around. During my past experiences working with various Nationalities I have actually met only a few of such characters. The rest I have been working with have been great mentors and guides and gurus', specially the last gentlemen I was working with was indeed a great professional, who not only supported me but also changed me. I ended up working with him for almost 10 years. In order to show him my appreciation I have published a poem about him, and a few others as well whom I have worked with.

I remember my frist middle east job, where I was subjected to a lot of vivious ridicule, specially from one particular female team member, who did not really like anyone doing better or looking better than herself, she used always portray the wrong image about me to the Head of Department, who seemed to very close to her in some strange way and he was under the impression that I could not read, or write. I eventually showed them all how wrong they could be.

I am honestly conducting a survey as I have had many females co-workers who always tell me that their immediate supervisor is a control freak, therefore I decided to obtain more ideas, and opinions.

Once I have a good collection, I would certainly be putting it into a journal, one day, some day, some one would benefit from it.

As for me I follow my father's golden advise " The pen is more stronger than the sword". With pen and paper one could very easily destroy another.

I have used my literary abilities to do just that, in various media's, specially on websites. (poetbay.com) being one. The same way I appreciate the good of a person. I also condemn the evil side of a person.

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Permalink Reply by Hartmut Grauel on September 6, 2009 at 18:01

Is he (the boss) like this to everyone or just to you?
a) If it's to all then leave the "rubbish" as you named it, nothing is worth this kind of treatment - unless you are providing reasons for that behavior?!
b) If you have ample time (say "years" it will take to change him) then address the matter to him in cool manner (without emotional outbreaks !) and in a quite moment, and follow-up with consistency
b) If it's just you take a critical and objective look at yourself.....

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Permalink Reply by Audrey Barber on September 7, 2009 at 10:48

Oh no he is not at all like this to me personally, I have no issues with him, but to everyone else yes he behaves in this manner, At first I thought it is all hearsay, and office gossip, and did not want to get involved, but when I saw and heard to my own eyes and ears, on repeated occassions, specially at meetings where his rude comments are directed at one person he targets to vent his frustrations upon.

It was then that I decided I needed to do a research to see what other employees and people in different places have to say, as I was sure there are plenty who are subjected to this sort of treatment.

Once I have enough data for a useful journal / guide I would certainly hand it over personally to him.

He has never once been rude or nasty to me, I assume he knows I am personally too strong to be brought down and would not let any man dream of treating me in such manner. Liek I say several times people should stand up for themselves as well no one else could defend your dignity and self respect it is within ones own self to do that, we can only be of assistance and comfort and provide advise to those that are subjected to these atrocities.

I learnt my lesson at the Crowne Plaza - It was then that I decided I will never let any one humiliate, insult use me or tarnish my character ever again, since then I have progressed even better in my career.

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Permalink Reply by Lizwelibanzi Ncube on September 8, 2009 at 13:24

That kind of a boss lakes professional ethics, the best solution withdraw your services and let it be clear to the company your reason for resignation. Say no to Hitler regime. At the sametime you have to take stock of yourself, why is this guy behaving like that.
GOOD LUCK !!!!

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Permalink Reply by Ratna Indah on September 11, 2009 at 7:18

Hi Audrey, how are you today? Hope that you are well now. I fully understand your situation and I know that its not easy to deal with.

Your comment below is correct but Dr. Vic is also 100% correct.

To deal with him/her, you have no choice than 'to follow' his/her instructions regardless how 'painful' it is. And if you disagree and you want to 'fight against' him/her then it is like you opening a 'magic box'. You must be ready with all the consequences which might come out from that box when you open it. It can be good but it can be the other away around.

Unfortunately, he/she has been appointed to be your boss by your management. I am sure that he/she has his/her own target to achieve, own pressure from the management. You may be don't know that.
You have to remember, it doesn't matter how good you are but still you might lost 'this battle' because he/she (your boss) has the POWER in his/her hands. You know what I mean. It sounds unfair but it happen sometime.

For whatever comments that you read, still the final call is yours. You can 'stay with him/her' with all the conditions (if you decide to take this, then there should be no more complain and 'do it happily and take him/her as he/she is)
Or you can leave him/her to find your 'new challenge', space where you can 'breath'...which one you like? You should know what you want.

Wish you can find the best solution for yourself...
Cheers,
RATNA

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